What to say if she wants your arrangement relationship to become a steady thing, and you don’t want the same!
There are times when your sugar baby may want something more than an arranged relationship with you, but you don’t want the same from her. If that’s the case, there are things you can do to make her back off trying to change the arrangement that won’t hurt her feelings. A little bit of honesty, being firm, and a tad smooth talk will get her off your back and keep you out the doghouse.
Remind her that’s not what you agreed to
Sometimes simply reminding her of your arrangement and why you have it is enough to get her to stop asking you to be in a steady relationship with you. She may be upset at first, but remind her that this arrangement allows for both of you to have fun and stay casual. Tell her about the perks and that ending the relationship as it is would be detrimental to both of you.
Simply say no
Sometimes, you can simply say no and tell her you’re not interested. This may make her upset, though, so do it gently and let her know it’s not because you don’t care for her, but that you chose this type of arrangement because it was what was best for you and your lifestyle. Explain to her that being in a steady relationship is not something you want.
Tell her you aren’t compatible
Remind her of your differences. This may be hard if the two of you are compatible, but there are things that you can tell her that will let her know you’re different enough that you don’t think it would work. Tell her people won’t understand your age difference, or your goals in life are too far incompatible to make things work in the long run.
Be polite, yet firm
When you’re letting your sugar baby know this is not something you want, be nice to her. It probably took a lot of courage for her to tell you how she feels, and hearing you say no may hurt her. Understand that she has feelings for you and that she is volatile when it comes to sharing these with you. This does not mean you should give in, though. Tell her bluntly that you do not wish to have your arrangement change and that is she cannot handle that she is free to make an arrangement with another sugar daddy.
Sugar babies do fall for their sugar daddies, and the other way around. If you find yourself on the receiving end of these unwanted feelings, you may have to figure out a way to make this go away and keep your sugar baby. Be polite, tell her how you feel, and make her understand why you feel this way and why it will not work. Once she understands you do not feel the same she is more likely to give up on the hope of being more than an arranged relationship.