It happens to many sugar daddies when they start dating a new or inexperienced sugar baby: they have to hear all about the ex-boyfriend that broke her heart. Believe it or not, some women talk about the ex to make the new man they are dating feel better. The thinking is that if she tells you her ex was a total dirt-bag, no matter how young and hot he may be, you won’t feel insecure that she’ll leave you for him. At other times, though, the young thing just needs someone mature to help get her out of the cycle of talking about her ex.
Tell her how you feel
When your hot young thing keeps talking about her ex, she may not understand how it makes you feel. Tell her that you don’t like it and explain why. Try to use good phrases, though, and don’t say things like “it makes me feel insecure.” This indicates to her that you have confidence issues. Instead, you could say something like “it sometimes makes me think you’d rather spend time with him, and I don’t want to compete for your affection.” This will make her see that you want her attention, but are confident enough not to have to hang onto her every word.
Explain to her why she should move on
If she’s truly just hung up on her ex, she may not be able to move on. Whatever this ex did to her may have shaken her confidence, or she may not be able to trust other men at the moment. Tell her all the great qualities about herself. If she says he cheated on her, tell her no man in his right mind would cheat on a woman as beautiful as she is and that she deserves a man who will be faithful to her. Women love knowing they are desirable, so let her know you notice her and desire her. The more confidence she gains back with you the more likely she is to move on from that old boyfriend.
Show her you are a better man
When a woman is dumped, or when she dumps a man, she wants to upgrade. Show her you are that upgrade. If the guy was a younger man, show her that even though you’re older you come with assets that younger guy didn’t have. You’re stable, mature, and financially secure. If the guy was older, show her that you’re more fun or more attractive than he was. Whatever you have over that ex-boyfriend, use that to show her you are a better man in every way. Once she realizes you are an upgrade, she’ll forget all about him and turn her entire focus to you.
Helping your sugar baby get over her ex-boyfriend can be good for the both of you. She gets to move on and you don’t have to hear about him anymore. Understand what she’s going through, but be firm if you don’t want to keep talking about the ex. Most young girls will respect an older man’s opinion on relationship matters and with your guidance she can move on quickly.