So you’re on a date with your sugar baby for the first time and things seem to be going well, but then you notice that she is shying away from you. What did you say wrong? You start thinking about what you could have said that made her pull away from you when she was just seeming to cozy up to you. If it was one of the following topics, you may have just killed your chances of her wanting to be your sugar baby.
No date wants to hear about your ex while you’re on a date with them. If you bad mouth your ex, you look tacky. If you talk too much about them, you seem like you miss them. If you compare people to them, you are hung up on them. In other words, do not talk about your ex unless she initiates the subject. Then, keep it light and short and change the subject quickly.
She may like kids, but that doesn’t mean she wants to know about them. Sugar babies don’t want to get too personal with you and knowing about your kids is really personal. Keep this topic short too. Mention that you have kids, maybe their names, ages, and genders, but don’t dwell on this subject and do not show pictures of your kids to your sugar baby. This is a real turn off.
She actually does want to hear about your job, but she doesn’t want to know that you hate your boss. She doesn’t want to know that your co-worker is an annoying cat-lady. She doesn’t want to know that you have a mountain of paperwork to finish by Friday evening. She wants to know what you do roughly, how much you make and your position. She only wants to know the good parts and how they benefit her.
This comes along with the job. She’s here to make your stress go away, sure but that doesn’t mean she wants to know what stresses you. Just tell her that you have a high-powered position and you’re very busy and that can be stressful, but do not delve into details. Those should come out slowly as your relationship grows.
She doesn’t need to know you’re balding or that you have high blood pressure. This makes you seem old and that’s a turn off. Even if you are considerably older than she is, she doesn’t want to think about you dying of a heart attack while in the middle of having sex with her. Keep all health issues out of the conversation unless it’s necessary. If you have a peanut allergy for instance, she may need to know that so she doesn’t get you something with peanuts in it. Allergies would be the only health issues to discuss.
There are certain topics that will make your sugar baby rethink being with you, especially if you talk about them on a first date. Stress, kids, health issues, and most other negative subjects are off limits if you want to make her your sugar baby.